Day in the Life with a 20 Month Old

It’s time for my every-5-month DITL post! Here’s a taste of what my life is like as a part-time WAHM (work-at-home-mom) with a 20 month old toddler.

5:00am Avery woke me up with a demand to “EAT!”. I looked around me and realized I was in her bed (oops, must have fallen asleep in there after a middle of the night wake up). She was pulling at my shirt hoping to get milk. Although we haven’t offered morning nursing for months now, she’s been sick, and she always wants it more when she’s sick. But I offered her a banana instead, and so downstairs we went to get a banana at 5am.

We played and fed the cats and let the chickens out and ate breakfast and washed dishes and watched some Paw Patrol and coloured for the next 3 hours. I’d rather not have the early morning wake ups because I’m so tired, but at least we have a leisurely morning together before daycare starts. I drank half a cup of yesterday’s coffee, and didn’t get around to finishing it.

My wife stayed home sick today, so she watched Avery while I was able to shower before daycare drop-off, which was a nice treat. However, Avery screamed for mommy at the bottom of the stairs the whole time. She’s all about her routine and doesn’t like it when we mix things up.

Despite having 3 hours to get ready in the morning, in the 5 minutes before we had to leave Avery spilled a cup of almond milk on herself and on me and all over the couch. She freaked out over being wet. I changed her pants. Then she pooped. I changed her diaper. Then we had a disagreement about what shoes she would wear. Typical morning with a toddler.

She was emotional at daycare drop-off. She hasn’t cried over it yet, but her lip quivers and she doesn’t want to let go of me. It’s weird, because she has ALWAYS loved her daycare, and nothing has changed there. I think it might just be because she’s still not feeling 100% better from her last bug.

8:30am On my way home I picked up my wife’s dry-cleaning. I also got a mother’s day card for my wife and could only find one card written for a wife that didn’t say inside it that it was from a husband. WHY. Why can’t they just leave the sender out of it and let them fill that in by themselves?? Anyway….

Yesterday our damn cat ripped a hole in our duvet with his nail and tiny feathers had been puffing out of it all night. I sewed up the hole when I got home and then threw it in the wash. I put away a load of laundry. I stripped and remade the bed. I vacuumed the upstairs because there were tiny feathers EVERYWHERE. I cursed the cats.

Then I hurriedly tidied up all the toys all over the house that Avery didn’t have time to put away before daycare (because of the milk spilling and last-minute diaper change). My wife was in the bath from the time I left until the time I finished the morning household tasks. I couldn’t help but feel a little jaded (even though I want to care for her and let her rest so she feels better) because I was just as sick 2 days ago and I DID NOT get a break. But it all comes out in the wash because I never have to sit in an office for 8 hours a day doing work that isn’t always inspiring.

9:30am Pulled out my laptop and sat on the deck in the sun and got to work. I’m working to get ethics approval for my dissertation research right now. After 2 reviews by the ethics board, I have a few more small changes to make to my application and then I expect to get that golden ticket to go ahead and start programming my data collection materials.

12:00pm Left to pick up Avery from daycare. She went down for a nap as soon as we got home. Wife was napping too, so I headed outside for some garden therapy. I got our outside water turned on for the season, planted a second sowing of peas and carrots, tended to the chickens (who were being ridiculous all crowding into one nest box), and topped up some gardens with compost. My hands were dirty, my lungs full of fresh air, and it was wonderful.

When I came inside my wife was awake and we cuddled on the couch and watched an episode of our newest Netflix show, Peaky Blinders. Afternoon grown-up tv is a rare treat these days!!

2pm Avery usually has an hour-and-a-half long nap these days. Right on cue, she woke up asking to eat. I think she’s going through a growth spurt. We immediately went outside and played at her water table, went for a walk, coloured on the deck with sidewalk chalk, and went for a bike ride with Avery in the child seat on the back of her Mo’s bike. She had so much fun that she was really upset when we had to stop, and she refused to take her helmet off.

4:45pm I headed to the kitchen/BBQ to make dinner and wash the day’s dishes. I spent the next 2 hours in the kitchen with a 20 minute break to eat. Avery gets steal cut oats every night before bed, and they take half an hour to make. She also requests fresh hot tea (mint tea) to take to bed with her. While I cooked and cleaned my wife played quietly with Avery. When it’s time to eat the oatmeal we always watch something calm on tv – either Puffin Rock, or lullabies on YouTube. Tonight she requested Puffin Rock.

6:45pm It was bathnight for Avery. My wife and I both participated in bath time because we’re trying to do less dividing and conquering and more team work. I put Avery to bed, which is now one of my favourite times of day. We snuggle in her bed while she nurses to sleep, usually for 45 minutes. It’s peaceful, relaxing, and a great way to reconnect after a full day.

8:00pm Since we’re both under the weather, my wife and I watched TV in bed and were asleep by 9:30. Our evenings are usually pretty uneventful because our days are exhausting.

And that’s it! A day that was full of little things: work, errands, playing, cooking and cleaning, ended with a lot of nothing. Laying in bed, recouperating, getting ready to start it all over again tomorrow.

A Day in the Life with a 10 Month Old

I think the last DITL post I did was when Avery was 5 months old. Life is very different now… 


Avery woke in her crib. Although the previous evening had been rough, she slept from 12am-3am, and then from 3:10-5am. It was a good night!! At 5, I brought her into our bed where she slept in for another hour and a half. 


Got up, got dressed, wife changed Avery’s diaper, I brought Avery downstairs to start the day while my wife got ready for work. 


Morning routine involves carrying Avery for the whole thing or she will steal the cats’ food from their bowls while they take forever to eat. We fed the cats, went outside to let the chickens out and check their food and water, went back inside to make coffee and prepare our breakfasts, and then I buckled Avery into her booster seat so I could FINALLY have my arms free, and we ate. Oatmeal and canned peaches for both of us. 


Wife left for work and we saw her off. Then I drank my coffee while Avery played in the living room. I caught up on watching some Vloggers I follow. 


Avery was getting tired and winding down for a nap. I read her some books and then snuggled in to nurse her to sleep. This morning she napped in my lap on the couch. My wife had asked me to make a Pinterest board of cottage bathroom ideas for their family cottage rebuild, so I spent the nap doing that and writing out a cathartic blog post about how I felt I wasn’t getting anywhere with work (while I sat there under a sleeping baby perusing Pinterest)… 


She was still sleeping!! 2 hour nap!! I had to wake her up because my bladder was bursting. Changed her diaper and got her dressed for the day. I set her up with some toys outside the bathroom door so I could do my hair (a once every two week occurrence) but she chose to play with the toilet paper roll instead and unrolled it all over the bathroom and broke it up into little pieces. Whatever keeps her busy, as long as it’s safe… 


Snacks for both of us, and I watched and cheered as Avery practiced pulling herself up onto things. 


Grocery shopping. I love grocery shopping with this baby… She loves sitting in the cart and observing her surroundings, and she kept leaning forward and giving me hugs as I pushed the cart. 


Put away groceries and had lunch. I couldn’t come up with a meal idea for me so I ate the other half of her banana. She didn’t mind my lack of creativity in cheerios for lunch. 


Diaper change, tidied the kitchen and cleaned her meal area (baby-led weaning is a messy business). Played together for a few minutes until she was settled and entertained and then did some administrative tasks like paying bills, printing some tax documents (we were selected for a random review of our tax submission) and checking emails. 


Nap time. We’ve been having good luck with naps on the couch lately with the tv on quietly. I think the background noise (it’s really quiet) works for her even better than her sound machine. So I laid couch cushions on the floor in the living room and nursed her to sleep with Harry potter on in the background. It took 5 minutes for her to fall asleep. 

While she napped I read some blog comments, did the dishes, cleaned the fridge, and cut up some melon for snacks later.  


She woke up on the wrong side of the couch cushions. She whined and climbed up my legs while I did a load of laundry and made dinner. 


I took her for a stroller walk because I needed to escape the whineiness. It helped, but you can see from her face in the picture that she still wasn’t pleased. 


We got home, and then 5 minutes later wife got home. We caught up on our days while I laid on the floor sweating my ass off from the walk with a clingy baby climbing all over me. 


Avery was signing that she was hungry and was making a pretty big fuss about it, so I fed her half an hour before her usual dinner time. We ate when my wife finished getting changed out of work clothes and preparing herself for the evening of baby time ahead. I made spaghetti squash with a dairy-free, beefy alfredo sauce. It was super good, and Avery approved. She kept taking seconds off of my plate. 


Played together as a family before bedtime


Wife took Avery upstairs for their bedtime routine (change diaper and put in pajamas, tooth brushing), and then I took over to finish up bedtime (nurse while reading books, then lullaby, and rock the rest of the way to sleep. 


Avery was asleep by 7, but we’ve had such trouble with transfers to the crib lately that I held her for and extra 30 minutes before putting her down. Wife washed dinner dishes while I was upstairs with Avery. 


First waking, easy to rock back to sleep. 


Woke again, wife put back to sleep. 


Woke again, I nursed her to sleep and went to bed myself. I could go on recording the up’s and downs through the night, but bedtime seems like a good place to end the day. 

It was a boring day and a busy day all at the same time. That’s the way things are right now. Sorry I don’t have any exciting stories to regale you with, but this is the real, monotonous, life of an at-home mom with a 10 month old. I totally understand the saying that with a baby, “the days are long, but the years are short”. 

Edit6pm: played for a bit but Avery was tired-cranky. Wife took her up for bed at 6:30 and they did their thing (diaper, pajamas, moisturize, tickle fight, tooth brushing, quiet play time) and I joined at 6:45 for our routine (nurse while reading books in dimly lit room, then rock to the rest of the wagi